{"id":26978,"date":"2021-07-15T19:16:06","date_gmt":"2021-07-15T16:16:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/?p=26978"},"modified":"2021-12-02T11:18:28","modified_gmt":"2021-12-02T09:18:28","slug":"the-yearning-for-closeness-and-the-forces-that-pull-us-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/the-yearning-for-closeness-and-the-forces-that-pull-us-away\/","title":{"rendered":"The yearning for closeness and the forces that pull us away"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"26978\" class=\"elementor elementor-26978\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3d88e6f elementor-reverse-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3d88e6f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;jet_parallax_layout_list&quot;:[]}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7cec273\" data-id=\"7cec273\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7a0c6ba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7a0c6ba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The yearning for closeness and the forces that pull us away<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-21a44a9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"21a44a9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"kvgmc6g5 cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">This week I found myself up until 00:40 at night watching the Netflix series \u2018Spinning out\u2019. Now, I\u2019m a morning person, and this is not my usual. As I was watching the series (and the late hour&#8230;) I noticed I couldn\u2019t stop. What was it that drew me in?<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">The series is about a young man and a young woman. Both good looking and talented, professional ices-skaters, aiming at ice-skating\/ dancing together. Throughout the series they yearn for closeness, yet their actions pull them away from each other. This goes on again and again. I knew I had to close the TV at a moment of closeness:). I felt uncomfortably romantic, but then, that symbolizes our primal yearning for closeness and the ongoing tragedy of not being able to actually create it in reality.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">I, personally, made this my life journey and career. Just like in the series, couples that arrive for therapy are on the line of closeness and distance. And just like in the series, a moment of connection is magical. Connecting is what&#8217;s life&#8217;s about.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">Being romantic is not enough. It\u2019s about figuring out all these forces that pull us away from closeness, from intimacy. Once these are figured out and can actually be discussed and addressed, then romanticism can do the work. It is possible!<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">Feel free to contact me for details to schedule an online session.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">~ Ronit Haase<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">Psychotherapist and couples therapist (EFT)<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><br><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">\n<div dir=\"auto\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"o9v6fnle cxmmr5t8 oygrvhab hcukyx3x c1et5uql ii04i59q\">&nbsp;<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-279f76c\" data-id=\"279f76c\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc6f510 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"dc6f510\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"387\" src=\"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-768x387.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-29019\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-768x387.png 768w, https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-300x151.png 300w, https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-1024x516.png 1024w, https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-400x202.png 400w, https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1-600x302.png 600w, https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/ice-skater-g4e5a3fa0c_1280-1.png 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week I found myself up until 00:40 at night watching the Netflix series \u2018Spinning out\u2019. 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