{"id":28283,"date":"2021-10-16T07:59:02","date_gmt":"2021-10-16T04:59:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/?p=28283"},"modified":"2021-10-17T22:49:00","modified_gmt":"2021-10-17T19:49:00","slug":"if-only-james-bond-came-to-therapy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/if-only-james-bond-came-to-therapy\/","title":{"rendered":"If Only James Bond came to therapy"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Therapist: “Mr. Bond\u2026 why are you here? Mr. Bond?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

James: “You see\u2026 my relationships were mostly pretty short-termed. Literally ‘pretty’ and ‘short-termed’. It felt the cast just kept changing\u2026 so I was never able to actually deepen any relationship\u201d.<\/em><\/p>

Therapist:\u201dhmmmm…and why do you think that was the case?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

James: \u201cI\u2019m not sure. All I know is that my world was constantly shaken. Not gently stirred\u201d. \u201cIt is gentle for short moments. Then- something always comes up. I handle it quite well though. And elegantly if I may add. \u201c<\/em><\/p>

Therapist: \u201cyou do…\u201d<\/em><\/p>

Therapist:\u201d For short moments in relationships as well?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

James:\u201dwell, the women I meet- they either try to kill me or I need to save them, usually both at the same time. I\u2019m saving their lives\u00a0as\u00a0they are trying to kill me. So yes- short moments.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

Therapist:\u201dMust be challenging to open up to someone who\u2019s trying to kill you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

James [pauses]:\u201dit is\u201d<\/em><\/p>

Therapist:\u201dwhilst you are on a mission to save the world…How is it to be the world hero?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

James:\u201dwell, \u2026 I\u2019m always expected to do the right thing, be on top of things. I mostly expect it from myself\u201d<\/em><\/p>

Therapist:\u201d and what do\u00a0you\u00a0want?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 It seems 007 was so busy taking care of everyone else, he never did pause to ask himself what he wants or what he needs. He never actually saw himself. When we discussed the home he came from, it turned out his parent were not around. He was never actually \u2018seen\u2019 by someone in the world. As he never really experienced this feeling, he wasn\u2019t able to internalize this quality and actually see himself, nor the women he met. They were both objects in service of others. Bond was never able to actually bond. He was charming with action and fun. But there was never room for feelings. Therapy has helped him finally see \u2018James\u2019 for the first time in his life. Only after a process of getting to know who he is, he was open to actually<\/em>\u00a0get to know a woman.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Therapist: “Mr. Bond\u2026 why are you here? Mr. Bond?\u201d James: “You see\u2026 my relationships were mostly pretty short-termed. Literally ‘pretty’ and ‘short-termed’. It felt the cast just kept changing\u2026 so I was never able to actually deepen any relationship\u201d. Therapist:\u201dhmmmm…and why do you think that was the case?\u201d James: \u201cI\u2019m not sure. All I know […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":69,"featured_media":28284,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":"","postBodyCss":"","postBodyMargin":[],"postBodyPadding":[],"postBodyBackground":{"backgroundType":"classic","gradient":""},"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28283","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","pmpro-has-access"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28283","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/69"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28283"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28283\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28284"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28283"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28283"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ronithaase.com\/he\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28283"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}